… Nor does a ‘stay at home mum’ mean you’re a mum, who stays at home all day.
What’s the right definition for a mum who has given up her work, to raise her children? I don’t think there is one. You just don’t ‘work’ in a conventional workplace. Your ‘work’ is strictly house and child-related. It’s no easier, the difficulties of each option are equal and also very different.
Every mum is a full-time mum. No working mother drops their children off into someone elses care and thinks, ‘fantastic, I’ve clocked off from motherhood’. Whether you’re a parent that works or one that doesn’t. You are a full-time mum regardless.
I don’t think I’ve used the phrase ‘I’m a full-time mum’ because that’s a bit like ‘well, duh’. When do you ever clock-off as a parent? You are always on the clock, whether you are with them all day or not.
So I’m not sure what I would say my occupation is. I suppose ‘none’ would best describe the fact that I don’t work. I spend all day, every day with my children. But we don’t ‘stay at home’ and ok, I’m ‘raising my children’, so are working mums.
There really is no good definition to describe a mum who doesn’t ‘go to work’, but instead works in other ways, which unfortunately doesn’t come with a pay-check!
We all work full-time as parents. There’s no competition between either option, as both should be admired.