We’re facing a dilemma as parents between fairness and practicality. Between room size and child age. In many parents opinion, it’s the first born that inherits the larger room from the off. The second is then to not only have the hand-me-down clothes and toys, but also the smaller room. The room which in our case, is more like a cupboard. You can fit a single bed, a chest of drawers and a child if you’re lucky. I do realise we bought our home knowing full-well that the third bedroom is extremely small, but it was home as soon as we stepped through the door and elsewhere in our home I think we can safely say it’s pretty roomy. So it wasn’t a deal breaker.
So, the bedroom dilemma boils down to the fact that our first born is a boy and our second is a girl. In my personal experience, girls have a lot of clothes, clothes which require a wardrobe. Don’t you dare risk a crinkle in that dress by folding it! Boys tend to have foldable clothes, jeans, tops and the odd set of dungarees. Our daughters current room will only fit a chest of drawers (which we don’t even have yet) all of her clothes are currently hanging in our sons room and we have pinched one of his drawers for her too. Our sons room is bloody massive for a childs room, I could only have dreamed of such a luxury when I was growing up! It’s a double room along with plenty of space for the extra drawers and wardrobes we may need as they get older (and hopefully they get a paper-round to pay for all these clothes).
Mr Firstooths Argument For The Room Swap
- If Child 2 doesn’t have the bigger room, we will have to move again in their teen years. All for the sake of a wardrobe. (We both agree moving house is one of the shittest things to do when you have children)
- When he was growing up he spent most of his time with his family (he had the smaller room) and hardly any time in his room, it didn’t bother him whatsoever that his room was the smallest. As I was growing up I spent most of my time in my room, I like my space.
- All the things boys will want to play with like game stations etc, will all be downstairs.
- We can acquire another television for downstairs if ever there were problems over what we were watching. But we have a laptop, that’s good enough.
- He gets a cabin bed.
My Argument Against The Room Swap
- He may feel like second best if he compares similar situations with his friends (once he’s older), who’s first born all has a roomy room.
- Once he’s old enough to communicate properly, he still won’t understand. From the view of a child, it’s all not fair.
- It’s inevitable we will move at some point (but please god not in the next ten years, unless we win the lottery and it’s to a mansion) so why not keep things as they are and keep that in mind for the next home, where they will be old enough to contribute to any decision. (I don’t want to move, I would stay here forever)
- It’s the ‘done thing’ I can imagine friends and family not fully understanding the decision to switch either and perhaps even think we have a favourite. (favouritism is determined by behaviour that day and is rewarded with toys, biscuits and TV. Not a bedroom)
- She gets a cabin bed.
My argument is pretty weak apart from not wanting Child 1 to feel upset (in the long run) if we made the decision to switch. I’d love to hear your thoughts, for either argument so a solid decision can be made before we pick up a paintbrush!